When sex starts feeling like work, this changes everything 🔑
Published about 2 months ago • 2 min read
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🧨 When Sex Starts to Feel Like Work...
You know that moment when you realize sex has become another thing to manage? You’re thinking about what’s supposed to happen next instead of what’s actually happening right now.
That’s the quiet burnout no one talks about — when desire turns into duty. So let’s fix that.
The Real Problem
Most couples don’t fall out of love — they fall out of sync. One person’s guessing what feels good. The other’s tired of having to explain.
When routine or distance creeps in, it starts to feel like performance instead of play.
That’s why I tested the Luxus by Kiiroo — a smart, interactive couples toy that helps your bodies learn each other again.
Two toys, perfectly in tune: • Lux Her: external, wearable clitoral stimulator • Lux Him: soft magnetic ring that triggers her vibrations in real time
Every movement and every thrust sends a signal. The closer you get, the stronger it feels. It turns physical chemistry into feedback you both can feel.
Suddenly, your partner knows what’s working. You don’t have to say “right there” — your body says it for you.
Why I’m Talking About It
In my latest Talk Sex with Annette episode, I sat down with Kiiroo founder Toon Timmermans to explore how this kind of tech helps couples reconnect — even after distance or disconnect.
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